It’s not that I dislike the phrase “It is what it is,” simply because it is a cliché. I dislike it because of what it conveys; tolerance and acceptance of whatever life has decided to dole out to you. It implies that you have no choice, no motivation to fight the good fight, no reason to “Rage, rage against the dying of the light.”
Sure, there are times when it is, unfortunately, a proper response, a helpful talisman when recognizing that fate and chance play a huge part in our lives. But to use the phrase because you didn’t get noodles with your hot and sour soup, or you missed the train? Come on!
While I am railing against “It is what it is,” let me add another expression I have a problem with, which is actually the other side of the passive acceptance coin. It is unrealistic optimism, as expressed with: “You never know.” Because ninety-nine per cent of the time, yes, you really do know. Most often, “You never know,” is used to mean, “I am about to do something really ridiculous, and there is only one way to rationalize it.”
Sure, once again, there are exceptions—like buying a lottery ticket, or coming out with a new Apple app—and I realize all this is off topic for my blog.
But I do feel better now.